This guy sounds like a world class Puss. A classless Asshole. But what is equally worse is him trying to justify his wussness to a 3 year old kid. Sounds like an ass kicking may help.

I don't know why this still upsets me. After all the years as a paramedic, watching humans abuse each other in virtually every available permutation, you'd think I'd be used to it.

A three-year old is old enough to repeat what that man said, so he's old enough to have someone explain to him that it's wrong. If you need some help in finding the words, check with Center for Victims of Violent Crimes. They either have some educational material that will help or can put you in contact with someone who can assist you.

Please make sure the judge knows that this happened. This attitude cannot be passed on to this child, and visitation should be limited and the abuser forced to get counselling before he kills someone.

I am so sorry that you and yours have to be involved in this in any way. You'll be in my prayers.

Thank you for the kind words Rob. We sat my nephew down and explained that "daddy is just angry right now" and that "it is never ok to hurt mommy or grandma." We also explained to him that sometimes adults say things they don't mean (although my bro-in-law does). He seemed to understand. We tried to tell him that it is never ok to hurt someone else, but his three year old mind goes back to, "but what if so and so hits me first . . ." it will take some time.

It's a good (no, great) thing that your nephew will have such a powerfully correct roll model (you) to help him learn the *right* way to treat women. But if you get the chance to knee the Jackass -- I say take it! Serves him right.

*sighs*
Hands are not for 'hitting'.
They're ok for holding and helping and occasionally soothing a fevered brow.

Not ok for man to hit woman.
Not ok for woman to hit man.
Not even ok for woman to rev motor of said car, she was just thrown against, and run over the "pretender*" a few times... although I'll not fault you for entertaining the thought! Hehehee!

*I say "pretender" here, because no REAL MAN I know would EVER harm a woman, or try to warp a little boy like that either.

I think that me and a couple of my cousins are due for a roadtrip. I do appreciate the solution from Rob, but it seems that my brother-in-law had a change of heart after hitting my sister and nephew once. Once. Twenty-two years later, he still can never make it to our family Christmas dinner. Oh, and they are still together. This is odd. But, I do come from the negative reinforcement school of learning.

The jackass needs a (jack)ass-kicking for sure. How the hell did your sister ever wind up with a loser like that? . . . and then to have a kid with him???

damn.... while I think I should fear not, never let this little one pick up on daddy's teachin's. The bastard needs a kick or ten to the head.

By someone other than you or her, of course!

Seriously... this rolls my gut.

I agree with the others. It sounds like this guy needs to have a little bit of a "Liberal ass-whoopin'". Two Dogs' roadtrip idea sounds good to me.

Blog ON.

Wait, is it White Trash Wednesday already? You know I'm kidding, hope you don't mind.

It is a pretty serious situation you're in there, and I'm with Two Dogs and T1G -- we might have a whole vanful for a road trip...

But you're doing all you can. Explain to the child right from wrong every single chance you get. Try and let him see the correct way to treat people -- go out of your way when you're around to get other male role-models to show him what's right and let him see the other women appreciating it. Seeing is believing.

I cannot even begin to tell you the reaction I have to this post.

I know it's out there, believe me I know...but it still just makes me sick.

I'm sorry you and your family are having to deal with this bullshit. Any man who hits or otherwise abuses any woman is not a man. He's a coward and needs to be taught a lesson. It sounds like his whole family needs a lesson.

"A real man doesn't slap even a ten-dollar hooker around, if he's got any self-respect, much less hurt his own woman. Much less ten times over the mother of his kids. A real man busts his ass to feed his family, fights for them if he has to, dies for them if he has to. And he treats his wife with respect every day of his life, treats her like a queen - the queen of the home she makes for their children." Michael Havel, _Dies the Fire_, by S. M. Stirling

Men like him only leqrn by brute force exampl. I think he needs 2 learn from a pro-wrestler what it feels like 2B terrorized & beaten.

but robs suggestion was the best.

There are two thought processes that, while I know they are all too real, I just don't understand.
I don't understand hitting someone and then going to sleep in the same room. I REALLY don't understand being hit and then allowing that hitter to sleep without a major asswhup.
Doesn't your sister own some large safety pins and a big iron skillet?
Step one, wait until he's asleep.
Step two, pin the top sheet to the bottom sheet.
Step three, make that big iron skillet ring like a bell.

Hands are not for hitting.

They're for swinging the crowbar into the kneecaps of assholes like that.

And, if that doesn't knock some clue into their skulls, for pulling a trigger.