October 07, 2007
UNFUCKINGBELIEVABLE!
Seriously. Enough to make me use the F-word and I don't use it with any great frequency.
I cannot stand my family sometimes.
So, about 2 weeks ago my nephew got a mohawk haircut. I think it looks ridiculous, but he isn't my kid. My son really wanted one - I said no. My mom says "Boy wants a mohawk." I emphatically said no. The boy stays at the mom's this weekend and the parents have the forethought to call my husband and say "Boy would like a mohawk." Husband said "no".
They did it anyway. THEY FUCKING DID IT ANYWAY!
Now, before anyone says "Lighten up it's just a haircut" step away from the keyboard because I will kick your ass.
Of course it is just a haircut. I'm not stupid. But, I said no and being that I am the woman who suffered excruiciating pain, unaided by any of the latest in medical pharmaceuticals in order to birth the little darling, I get to say when and if, and what kind of haircut that little imp gets! Have I made myself clear?
Think I am overreacting? He has SCHOOL PICTURES in a week. His very first. I had hoped he would look normal, cute maybe, even clean cut for those very first school pictures. I didn't want to explain to the bridge-club ladies when I'm in my 60's why my son looks like Sid Vicious at the age of 4.
A fucking mohawk! What? Shaving a symbol into his head was too much?
Seriously, has nothing to do with the haircut. It is the fact that I said no and the husband said no.
So, I get to be the bad guy when I shave his head completely tomorrow before school. I get to listen to him rant and cry because my fucking family thought it would be a hoot to give the boy a mohawk even though mommy and daddy said no . . .
What do you moms and dads out there think? Am I really overreacting? Tell me without saying lighten-up because I guarantee you I will sooo kick someone's ass if I hear that again! Seriously, a fucking mohawk!
Posted by Oddybobo at October 7, 2007 06:38 PM
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Lighten up ... Just kidding
I would fucking kill my family if they went against my wishes.
It is your kid, you get the say so in what happens to the kid and nobody but nobody should go against your wishes.
Sounds like somepeople wanted to either see you reaction or piss you off majorly.
No. You're not over reacting on ANY level.
And if you don't put your foot down, HARD, now...it only gets worse. I have a friend with a NIGHTMARE of a situation now because of these very kind of events.
Damn. I'm sooo sorry.....
nope. Not overreacting. My family knows I would chase them down with MY own clippers if they did that. I would, too.
First off coming from someone that had a mowhawkkk(I was 15 and 16)....
LOATHE this mohawk on children thing...
shave it off for pictures
you said no and you should be pissed
I do believe that I would be knocking on their front door to discuss this...With an ax.
I also believe that, here in Texas, you would get away with the proper response under our old legal term of "they needed killin'."
Are you selling tickets to your next visit with the parents?
'Cause I want ring-side seats.
And popcorn.
I'm locked and loaded - head shavers at the ready... I can get in my car and be there in a few hours. I'll help you - we can hold all the idiots down and completely shave their heads bald. Really.
I HATE it when people think that just because they are "family" they can do whatever the hell they want regardless of what you say.
I would also tell said "family" that it will be quite a while before any of you, but especially your son sees them again. There is NO excuse for this - none at all. And you must have some suitable recourse so that they NEVER EVER contemplate such a thing ever again.
They have to know - when YOU say NO - YOU have the final decision. What happens when he gets older and there are more serious issues? What then? This is way more than just a haircut. And it's very very serious. You need to stop it now or it will only get worse.
I'm so very sorry you have to deal with this. ARG!!!
Guess somebody don't get to visit their grandson until his hair grows back completely.
Oh boy. I don't blame you at all. When mom and dad say "no", the rest of the family needs to accept that. Period.
I would have been pissed too. Both you and your hubby said no and they did it anyways. I would be very pissed at them. Just take some clippers and cut all of his hair off, make it a very crew cut. Tell everyone it was for summer because he hates it hot and his head sweats a lot.
Agree with you completely. And a mohawk isn't just a regular 'haircut'. It's usually done by teens who want attention, or by parents (or in this case GRANDparents) who crave the attention via the kids. I had a student (in the first grade) who wore a Mohawk...along with his brothers (Kind. and 2nd grade). They didn't want it...the parents did. Poor kids were always the target of negative attention from other kids...taunts, etc.
And while you're shaving his head, remind him that it's because of other people stepping over your boundaries. Maybe he'll think about Mom's and Dad's rules supersede anyone else's until he's 18. Or 21.
Guess I won't be getting a mohawk...
Oh... and not being a parent, I still agree. You both told them. They ignored you. I'd throw a free beating party...
Nobody looks good in a mohawk. Not even an Indian. You are SO right.
Not an overreaction at all. And I'm with Harvey. I wouldn't let him go back over there until his hair grows back. All the way. Maybe they'll be a little more respectful of your wishes next time.
This weekend we were talking to my in-laws, and they said we'd never want our kids going to their house because they'd spoil them. I said, "Eh, you can spoil them all you want, just don't sneak them out and 'baptize' them when they come visit." I wouldn't have said it except that I don't doubt that they already have plans, because before Frank converted from Catholicism, his mom had actually told him, "Don't worry, you can sneak the babies out of the house and baptize them. She won't even know." Their response? "We won't need to do that, we have a baptismal kit here at home." They weren't joking. That'll be a fun day.
Holy shit. I'm f***ing bent just reading this. I'm absolutely completely 100% aghast that ANYONE, IN PARTICULAR YOUR PARENTS would go against your wishes. YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND both said NO. How in the hell would they have felt if either of their folks had done that to them on an issue they had with you?
I'm completely with Harvey on this. I'd be hard pressed to not tell my folks they couldn't see my kid alone for a long damn time. I'm... just... aghast.
I may even be more pissed than you... Seriously.
