January 10, 2007

Rant Alert!

What makes women so petty and mean? Seriously. I joined a community weightloss program to get my body and my spirit into a better me. I've tried everything on my own and now I'm looking for help and support. I also may seek medical help as I believe my weight is affected by my medication and an unknown illness.

Anyway, the women I met? In one word-Nasty! Seriously. I am not a whiner, but to my "I'd like some inspiration or support" comment I got, "if you haven't done it by now you won't"; "this isn't a pity party, quit whining"; "I'm fat boo hoo", etc. These women were off the chain. Nasty for no reason but to be nasty. Oh - and they were fugly too *snort*.

Now, I've been fatty mcfatty pants for a very long time. I've always been the "big" girl. I was cute and thinner in my younger years - but never skinny.
I've done yo-yo dieting, taken diet pills, even had an eating disorder for several years. So my goal is to take a healthy approach to weightloss in the hopes that if I lose enough weight, maybe I'll be in a position to have another child. Right now I'm not at a healthy weight.

I've seen nastiness, here in the sphere, out on the street, hell I snark during fashion shows and the oscars too, but these women, seriously the nasties abound. These women who have had success at shedding a few pounds seem to think they have license to snark at those of us who have not. That's nice for them, but bragging rights - they don't have.

I've had it with fembots and their petty crap. On an intellectual level, the women I met at this community thing have about as much to offer me as lettuce. I think I'll skip the "inspiration and support" the community thing has to offer and go online to weight watchers where I've had success in the past.

Perhaps it is me. I do hate people after all. But they are so necessary in my evil plot to take over the world.

Rant over.

Posted by Oddybobo at January 10, 2007 09:43 AM | TrackBack

I hear ya sistah! And I couldn't agree more. I did the community support thing and got....crap. Don't need anymore of that in my life, let me tell you.

So...I made my own support. There are a couple of women here at work and we all want to just "get healthy". Get in better shape, rediscover better eating habits, you know just feel better.

But we have a rule. No negatives. None. We walked a little over 1 1/2 miles yesterday at lunch. We all ate healthy(er) all day. We could have done better but we were so damned proud of what we DID do, and that was the focus.

You want support? You want inspiration? Give me a call darlin'. I got your back!!!

Posted by: Tammi at January 10, 2007 09:59 AM

as a person who has been thin (due to God's gift of a very high metabolism), to someone that is now "curvier"...

I will say this, I have been at both ends of the spectrum now.

I can say feeling better, stronger, sexier, fitter, is probably the most important thing.

and a lot of it is simple as genetic predisposition. A lot of it is lifestyle.

I have also seen the nastiness and it is not good.

So good luck, and here is to a fitter and healthier you!!

Posted by: armywifetoddlermom at January 10, 2007 10:29 AM

The fembots sound bitter... Those who can't, tear others down. Hurtful idiots! Grrrr...

Posted by: pam at January 10, 2007 11:14 AM

I used to go to Weight Watchers...now that the weight has piled back on, I am thinking of going back. I have never experienced what you did...everyone there was always very supportive and positive. I don't know what group you met with, but I'm sorry they were such a nasty bunch. (Perhaps it's something in the air?) In any case, I wish you the best in your quest. And you're doing it all for the right reasons, which are for you, not someone else. Keep us posted on your SUCCESS!

Posted by: Pam at January 10, 2007 11:31 AM

There are various groups out there - this one is obviously into the "deride someone until they lose the weight" type thing. Thus making them feel superior or whatever. Just one of those remarks would have had me up and out the door, never to return. For that matter I would have been saying something to the effect - of "yes I can tell by looking at this group that your method doesn't work!" The wankers!

If the online WW works for you - that's terrific! If you still would like some in person support - try some online searches for other groups in your area - attend one meeting and see how you like it (most groups will let you come to one for free). If you aren't comfortable or the people just don't strike you with a positive vibe - you've only wasted a little time. If they are nasty - then you waste even less time by leaving immediately. heh. For that matter - whatever this group was... there may be other chapters that meet and have terrific people associated with them, so you may want to go with that angle.

It's great when you can find a group that "clicks" - it makes everything so much more enjoyable. Good luck with the weight loss. I hope you can find something that works for you!

Posted by: Teresa at January 10, 2007 11:54 AM

I have never been a community type person when it came to losing weight (although I probably should try it now as I'm having a harder time after years of being on steriods and getting old); but I think I would contact the head office for that group and make a major complaint.

Posted by: Tink at January 10, 2007 12:26 PM


Posted by: armywifetoddlermom at January 10, 2007 01:20 PM

women are bitches to each other, straight up, and it sucks. Especially about our weight. Why, I have no idea. I wish I did.

Posted by: caltechgirl at January 10, 2007 02:21 PM

Sigh. I'm sorry to hear about this. I hope it doesn't stop you from trying to get healthy. It is the best and hardest thing you can do for yourself.

Posted by: vw bug at January 10, 2007 02:27 PM

That is why I have always liked being friends with boys better. Girls can be nasty. The new Weight Watchers plan is great. I am lucky enough to have a 'At work' program that is very supportive. But just keep at it. You can do it. If you are interested I have a recipe for a pumpkin pie that is 6 points. For the whole pie! I am sure it is not as good as yours but 6 points for the whole pie!

Posted by: adamboysmom at January 10, 2007 02:33 PM

I am soooo hip!
I'm in the struggle myself, OddyBo - so I can identify with what you are saying.
At one point I looked to my own sister for support - disasterous mistake - it was like it turned into a competition or something.
It was not fun. It was disheartening to say the least.
Weight Watchers is a great program I've had success with them in the past.
But this time I'm holding my own big butt accountable - no weigh-ins, no specific diet plan just going for wholesome, healthy foods, totally giving up junk (whimper)and slowly, "painstakingly" adding more physical activity into my days.
I've got a secret blog I'm posting my efforts and eventually my accomplishments on. I think it might help me to journal the journey.
If you need some encouraging words - I'll be around... inbetween school assignments this spring.
YOU deserve to OBTAIN your goals!!!
and I know YOU (and I) can do it, too!

Posted by: dorko at January 10, 2007 03:20 PM

They just haven't had anything good to eat in years... No wonder they're bitchy!!

Either way - to hell with them! You are going to be just fine with the rest of us at your back. :-)

Posted by: Richmond at January 10, 2007 04:33 PM

Okay, risking a public flogging here. I'm going to make a couple of comments.

A) I've met you. You are not fat. If you are fat then I must be Jabba the hut.

B) People who fail at certain things in their life generally tent to tear others down that attempt to do the same thing, in hopes that they don't succeed. If the person they are tearing down does succeed, then the snarky one feels like a bigger failure.

Posted by: Contagion at January 10, 2007 09:07 PM

Awww, Contagion got all sweet!

Posted by: oddybobo at January 10, 2007 09:21 PM

Everyone pretty much nailed it here.

I'm a lifetime member of WW. I did the on-line thing when I needed to get back, but I needed the meetings. As reclusive as I can be at times, I needed the positive energy of the instructors there. No nastiness. Awards given out. Everyone happy for everyone else. It's just really positive. My Mom and I are both lifetime members... for me its been 14 years I believe.

I want you to be healthy... get to your doctor first. And healthy means more than body, it is soul too. If you feel good about yourself, no matter the size, that is the BEST thing! That is what I wish for you.

Posted by: Bou at January 10, 2007 10:18 PM

Can I sit by you Oddy? I need to lose more weight....about 60 lbs of it. Just call ME Jabba....

My downfall? I like crunchy foods.
What's crunchy? Fried foods.

Yeah, not good when you want to lose weight!

Keep us posted on how you're doing....

Posted by: Rave at January 10, 2007 10:18 PM

Don't let those cows stop you.
Find a better crowd.

Sometimes people just suck.

Posted by: Roses at January 10, 2007 10:21 PM

ugh, women can be so catty. i have used spark people with great success. it's an online support system darlin and it's free. go check it out and give me a shout.

Posted by: shoe at January 11, 2007 08:07 AM

"fatty mcfatty pants"

Hehe. We can see you've not lost your sense of humor, despite the nasties! Good to know. :)

Posted by: Ogre at January 11, 2007 09:45 AM

For the record, Contagion is not Jabba the Hut.

More of a Wookie, really.

Anyway, you're cuddly. I know. I've cuddled you :-)

I think Teresa's on the right track. There are lots of groups with lots of different approaches, because different people respond better to different forms of motivation.

Some people get more out of harsh butt-kickings, some people need hugs to celebrate every ounce they lose.

These people were of the negative sort, which is not what you need.

On the bright side, you've got lots of blogfamily who would be more than happy to cheer & encourage you. Maybe you should blog your program?

Posted by: Harvey at January 11, 2007 11:47 AM

Hey, this whining doesn't become you and if you really carry a pocketknife, that meeting would have presented an opportune time for cleaning your teeth with it. Just saying.

Posted by: Two Dogs at January 12, 2007 04:30 PM

Never give up, even when you slide back a few steps, keep going. The place behind you can't be changed but your future CAN! Forget about the wicked witches, they may not have fat on the outside but they have fat where their hearts out to be!

Posted by: Lemon Stand at January 13, 2007 10:07 PM
Perhaps it is me. I do hate people after all. But they are so necessary in my evil plot to take over the world.

Hmmm... It looks like I have competition in my bid for world-domination. No matter! I have calculated for this and other petty... irritations, and I have contingency plans in-place!

Tomorrow, Pinky...

Posted by: Bitterroot at January 14, 2007 11:45 PM

iet pills are rather dangerous at wrong reception. Without consultation of the doctor I at all would not advise to use diet pills WBR LeoP

Posted by: Leo at January 17, 2007 05:11 PM